Who are
you without your struggle? If you are so
used to struggling, unhappiness, emotional suffering, scarcity, lack,
less-than, and you want to create ease, happiness, enthusiasm, joy, abundance,
self-worth – start in small ways to enable a greater and greater capacity to
hold happiness – to open and receive your good.
How
practiced are you in receiving? When
“my” dog showed up out of the North Carolina woods, he was tired, starving,
ribs showing, ears cut up from running through briars, scared, and yet he was
ready to soak up the food, water, affection, play, and love showered on him by
a bunch of strangers! What a lesson to
witness in being open to receive goodness.
In coaching conversations with clients, it is interesting
to hear how much we identify with the past, clinging to the familiarity of what
we do not want. We often have a lot of
resistance to practicing the new way of being that we imagine. Replacing the old is not as far off as we
might think. “Positive” thoughts have
much more oomph than “negative” thoughts.
Think about this – one small flame from a candle can light an entire
huge dark room allowing you to see everything; however, it is impossible to
bring a small amount of darkness into a bright room and make it dark!
I wish I could show you, when you
are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being. ~ Hafiz
Many
people think they have to be good and therefore in God’s favor to have good
things happen to them, and if bad things are happening, they must be out of
God’s favor and are being punished. What
if, instead of thinking of a fickle God who chooses who is in good standing and
bad, you view “good” as believing in your good and aligning yourself with all
the positive in the Universe and being “bad” as working against your good and misalignment
with God’s gifts. Don’t stand on the garden hose of life that is bringing all
our bounty to us constantly flowing from the Divine. This is a joint project
here on Earth. God helps those who help
themselves. Notice when you are choosing
not to receive abundance in all things.
It is our free will to choose to prevent bringing goodness
and showering blessings upon ourselves. We
have the right and ability to be our own oppressor and choose not to
receive. Each time we experience and
feel gratitude, joy, abundance, acceptance, peace, love, compassion,
enthusiasm, we allow miracles to be created and flow. When we are fearful, revengeful, ungrateful,
believe in lack and scarcity, resist, fight, hate, judge, our free will bestows
upon us more of the same.
What we
see manifested in our lives is a direct out picturing of the beliefs and
feelings that we have sent like energy signals – beacons out into the cosmos
that are picked up and sends back to us what we “have ordered.” Also, we don’t
really know if something that we judge as “being bad” is really a great thing
for us in the long run. As long as we
keep with our vision and alignment with blessings and gratitude, we are less
likely to judge something as bad, and more likely to be open to receiving the
lesson, and adopt a wait-and-see attitude. Some of the most fantastic
experiences and learnings in our lives have started out as something that we
judged as a “bad” thing happening to us.
As in the
Earth, Wind, and Fire song Fantasy, “Every
thought is a dream, rushing by in a stream, bringing life to the kingdom of
doing.” Translated as, your thoughts and
dreams become created in this life. First
it is imagined in the kingdom of being then it is made visible in the kingdom
of doing (earth). I am far from being
fully open to all the goodness, but I continually practice creating and
receiving, and I’m getting better at it every day! I encourage you to join me!
We are each gifted in a unique and
important way. It is our privilege and
our adventure to discover our own special light. ~ Mary Dunbar
Robin
Fernandez, NCC, PCC
Leadership
Coach
Nature of
Being
www.natureofbeing.com
